Sometimes it’s hard to ask for what you want but know that you ARE worth it!

How do you ask for what you want?

1.  Visualize the Outcome.  Visualize asking for what you desire (assuming of course you are being fair and reasonable) and the other person being happy to oblige.  Everything working out easily and effortlessly in your favor and then stepping into feeling strong, confident and courageous that you were able to stand in your power and speak your truth.  Yay!!

2.  Roleplaying.  I’m a huge fan of roleplaying.  I usually ask a friend to help me work through the conversation so the words roll of my tongue with grace and ease.

3.  Lighthouse.  I’m an energy person so I call in the white light.  I surround myself, the other person and the experience as a whole with a beautiful white light.  I like to visualize a magnificent lighthouse shining down helping the ships in the harbor find their way home safe and sound.  Asking that whatever is in my highest good, for my best interest and the best interest of all occur.

Now you are ready.  Make an appointment with the other person or ask divine guidance to create the perfect time to naturally occur for the conversation to take place.  I’m amazed that when I do the latter it always works out perfectly but when I try to create the time all by myself I just procrastinate and then never do it.

So GOOD LUCK.  You can do this.  YOU are worth it!  Go ahead and ask for what you want because the worst that could happen is that you don’t get it but you get something else instead…practice and experience so the next time it will be easier and feel even more empowering!  ♥

“You know you’re ready for change when your emotions are gone and you’re more matter-of-fact.” 

It seems like 40′s are a time of trying to figure out who you are and what your next cycle is going to be.  When the kids are grown and gone (sometimes sooner, sometimes later) many reflect on where they’ve been and where they’re going.  If unrest is in your heart it may be time for a much needed change.

Before you leave your husband or quit your job I encourage you to go within, to reconnect with your soul and discover that inner voice that is always guiding and directing you toward your highest good.

Sometimes we feel disconnect not because our husband’s a jerk and our job sucks (even though that may be true), but sometimes we feel disconnected because we have lost touch with our inner compass and we’re actually disconnected from our soul.  Once reconnected with your soul you get a different perspective on your life.

With a different perspective you may or may not decide to leave your husband or quit your job, but you will know one thing for certain and that is that you are never alone and that your inner voice will never steer you wrong.

I am passionate about helping people reconnect with their soul and have seen miraculous things happen.  Are you ready for change?

My daughter and I are gearing up for a 3 day camping trip with my sister.  We began doing this about 10 years ago when Janae was around 2 years old.  My sister had just gotten a seasonal campsite in Tony, Wisconsin, and was excited to share the great outdoors experience with us since she knew how much we enjoyed camping.  And with that one great idea was landed an (almost) annual tradition of campfires, boating, fishing and swimming in the lake for 3 blissful days in the summer.

I am amazed at how much my daughter and I look forward to this mini getaway.  And it’s oh so much fun to be able to get along without the boys.  No disrespect intended but it’s quite empowering to survive in the wilderness on your own without any men to save you.  For some reason I always come back feeling stronger and braver than before I left knowing that I can conquer another year of married life with children because as we all know some years are good and some years are pure hell.  AMEN.

When I don’t forgive you I punish myself with what you did again & again & again in my head. I spend my energy hating you.  When I forgive you the thought of what you did releases me & no longer has any power over me…I am truly free.  When I forgive you, I can go back to loving me.  Forgiveness really isn’t about you – it’s about me.  Who could you forgive today?

UBC: Day 23

Today I want to talk about the value of Girl Time (or Guy Time) whichever is gender appropriate for you.

I used to be a school teacher and people would tell me all the time that I should quit my job and start my own business.  My response:  NO WAY!  I grew up with parents who owned several businesses and I knew that it was a huge investment of time and energy.  Did I say time and energy?  Owning your own business is like raising children…it’s a job that never ends.

That still, silent voice in my heart convinced me it could be different so I quit my job and started my own business.  Guess what?  I found out that it was a HUGE investment in my time and energy.

I am moving in on my 5th year in business (yes I have survived) and last year I began to realize the importance of simple pleasures in your life like GIRL TIME.  This is on my New Year’s resolution’s list as well…  “I’m too busy” is never a good excuse NOT to hang out with the girl’s.  “I’m in the hospital” “It’s my husband’s birthday.” “I’m on an adventurous vacation” now those are all good reasons not to hang out with the girls but no longer, no more will I ever, ever, EVER deny girl time because the laundry is piling up, I have to get my email messages in order, I have to organize the billing system, I have to catch up with social media, etc…  NO, NO, NO.  Shame on me for not realizing what’s important in my life.

The best part about girlfriends is that even if you fall off the face of the earth for 5 or 10 years.  They are always there to welcome you back when you begin to see the light of day again.

I encourage you to reconnect with your friends.  Here’s my list of

Top 6 Ways to Make Girl Time a Priority

1.  Call 1 person once a month to chat – emails are great but nothing beats the sound of her voice.

2.  Do lunch or drinks once a month with someone besides family.  It forces you to reach out and create relationships with other people.

3.  Birthdays are a GREAT way to stay in touch – create a birthday club for your friends and get together annually on everyone’s birthday.  The birthday girl gets free lunch and drinks for the day.  Funny cards are great, sometimes gifts are nice but I believe we’ve gotten to be too consumeristic (is that a word?  it is now!) so stick with homemade gifts or be creative or better yet just being together is the gift in and of itself – nothing more needs to be done.

4.  Just Because msg…  send out a just because card or text or email.  Just because I want you to know how great I think you are.  Just because you popped into my mind today and I wanted to send you a card to brighten your day.  Just because…

5.  Schedule “Girl Time” on the calendar.  When you get together – set a date for the next time before you leave the gathering.  When it’s written on your calendar it’s more likely to get done.  Plus you get the added bonus of looking forward to something.

6.  Discuss with your family how important this time is for you.  When your cup is full you can give more to others.  When you’re running on empty all the time you have less energy and enthusiasm for your loved ones.

Time spent outside of our family is important for our overall growth.  Relationships and feeling connected in more ways than one helps us to feel balanced and in harmony with life.  Now call up your friends and plan your next Girls Night Out!  ♥

UBC: Day 15

Sometimes you come to a fork in the road.  Should I go left or should I go right?

If you are faced with a fork in the road here are some tips to help you make that decision.

1.  Pray about it.
Don’t just ask God to help you out, but really open your heart to divine guidance.  Do this by taking 3 deep breaths, close your eyes, move into your heart and ask God “Which path would bring me closer to my highest good?”  Don’t worry about getting an answer right away.  It will be revealed to you if you ask the question.

2.  Pay Attention.
There are usually signs all around us that are trying to tell us Yes or NO! but we miss them because we are too busy and can’t “hear” that still, small voice  trying to direct us.  Slow down.  Take time out for yourself on a regular basis and get in touch with your inner wisdom so you can really become aware of the signs spirit is trying to give you that you keep missing.

3.  Passion.
Usually the path your suppose to take makes you light up like a Christmas tree or explode with excitement like fireworks on the 4th of July.  The path you should stay away from usually feels flat and unemotional.  Try talking with someone about the decision you need to make and ask them to pay attention to your voice intonation and facial expression.  Sometimes the answer is hidden in your language and easily identified by a 2nd party.  Just make sure the person is able to be objectionable and that they don’t have any personal stake in the outcome.

Sometimes knowing what you don’t want is just as important as knowing what you do want.  Sometimes the path is to show you what you DON’T want.  So please know that there are NO wrong answers.  Just follow your heart.  ♥

UBC:  Day 13

Say each thought lovingly to yourself three times daily and watch magical things begin to happen in your life:

1.  I am a brave and valiant warrior.
2.  I boldly go in the direction of my dreams.
3.  I move through my fears allowing my courage to blossom.

Expand your awareness with wonderful words:

plucky \PLUHK-ee\, adjective:

Having or showing pluck or courage; brave. (source: www.dictionary.com)

What’s the difference between courageous people and weak people?  Weak people allow their fear to hold them back or keep them frozen where they are at. Courageous people embrace their fear and keep moving forward.  To be plucky or not to be plucky, that is the question.  I don’t know about you but I’m going to hop, skip & jump my way through summer as a plucky kinda gal.  Bring it on!

Sometimes we take on the burdens of our loved ones whether it be a spouse, child or parent.  We may feel that their behavior is a direct reflection of ourselves, even though we know that is not true.

It’s difficult to watch someone make bad choices in their lives.  We want to step in and help them out, show them the way.  While that may be all well and good sometimes God has a different plan and we may be interfering with God’s work.

It’s important for us to remember that we all have our own cross to carry and path to walk down.  God wants us to focus on our own business.  Our role on this earth is to be a guiding light, filled with love and forgiveness for ourselves and for others.

Our place is not to judge, condemn or control.  Sometimes our fears take us down that path.  We are afraid that if we don’t do as we are doing the situation will become worse.  I am here to tell you through my own challenges in life that if what you are doing is not working then you need to try something else.

Honestly, we bang our head against the wall year after year and then wonder why nothing ever changes.  The first place to start is with YOU.  No matter how bad off the other person is…change begins with yourself.  Heal yourself.  Love yourself.  Make YOU a priority in your life.  Then you will begin to see with clarity and perspective.  That divine guidance will begin to come in loud and clear.  There is no need to fix anything but yourself.  There are no mistakes only opportunities for learning.

Everything is exactly as it should be.

And by the grace of God, it is so.